Adoption, One Birth Mother’s Perspective
The following is a Q&A with Chloe, a birth mother who came to Hope Cottage for support. Chloe found and placed her child with a loving adoptive family.
Can you tell us a little about how you felt while making an adoption plan, as well as how your Hope Cottage Counselor impacted your experience?
It was difficult, for sure. Adoption isn’t something I wanted at all. I was pleased and comforted to find a couple that my pastor knew deeply and could vouch for, which made the process a little better for me. Hope Cottage has been nothing but phenomenal. I can’t imagine a better adoption agency. Exceptional!
What would you want the world to know about your experience, feelings, and story? How has it impacted your life?
You’re doing the right thing. In my personal opinion, I love my son, Charlie, more than words can ever begin to express! I went through such a traumatic pregnancy. Awful. I felt like there was absolutely no hope for my son, me, or his father. I believe SO much in Jesus. I believed that no matter what, he would keep my son safe. I trusted Jesus that no matter what, he would protect my son. I kept faith even when there seemed to be no positive outcome at all. I was terrified. I felt hopeless. Then, at the last minute, Jesus made a way for the father and me. I remember looking at Charlie for the first time and falling totally in love with this precious, innocent, perfect little human. My heart was completely full. Nothing else seemed to matter other than my love for Charlie –– and I knew I had to do what was best for him. Then I met the adoptive family, I fell completely in love with their love for Jesus. No red flags, not even a yellow one. I was confident this was the right decision. I remember there being such peace in the room. And I said “yes” to them that night. I cried out of hope. Complete hope in the adoption when Jesus is in the center of it. I’m forever grateful for them!
Is there a quote or something inspirational that helped you through this time?
My favorite verse to hold onto for encouragement is Romans 8:24.
"Chloe has shared that she plans to work with organizations to mentor other young ladies who are going through what she did, are considering adoption, and need hope.”– Aimee, Hope Cottage Pregnancy Counselor.